My now 6–year-old twin girls have been in the same classroom from preschool through pre-Kindergarten and now Kindergarten. They’ve had a wonderful year in their first year of real school, as they call it. They’re very social little girls and their classmates are now good friends. Both have learned to read and write well and their curiosity continues to grow as they show off their math and reasoning skills. Neither is co-dependent on the other and separate easily when in the classroom. And next year, I’m separating them into different classes. If things are going so well, you’re probably wondering, why am I going to do that? And I would respond, because it’s time.
Seriously though, all the reasons I’d maintained for keeping them together in the same Kindergarten classroom no longer exist…while the reasons for separating them have become clear. One of the biggest reasons I kept them together was that they were entering a new school where they would not know anyone. As I mentioned, this is no longer the case. They have a whole classroom of new friends plus those that they met in the Extended Care program at a nearby church.
Moral support. One of my twins (Songwriter) is bold and assertive. The other (Storyteller) is thoughtful and cautious. But in new situations – new people, new environment – both personalities change dramatically. Songwriter becomes shy and quiet. Storyteller becomes protective [of her twin] and outspoken. Many people find this difficult to believe but I see it time and time again. At the beginning of the year, I think this was a good thing. Songwriter learned to observe and figure out her place in class. Storyteller was their spokesperson, exuding confidence and acting like the older-by-two-minutes sister that she was. They needed each other in different ways. Next year, each of them will see familiar faces in class from their Kindergarten year and the environment won’t be so new and unfamiliar.